I want to fuck the shit out of this.
In the interests of full disclosure, let me first say that yes, I would too. But man, sometimes when I hear us say it like that, it just feels really weird to me. If I was a man and this was a woman, it would be downright gross. To say that I want to fuck the shit out of this just feels, well, violent. (No matter how uncomfortably true.)
Perhaps it’s like humor, when the person joking and the person being joked about have different levels of social power: it only works when the joke’s pointing up, so to speak. It doesn’t seem as offensive or damaging when the person with less power is making fun of the person with more. Maybe sexual objectification works the same way? Is it less offensive when we who have traditionally been objectified express objectifying desire this way?
Perhaps this is the crucial question: how likely is it that this beautiful man is going to get raped by a woman? There are structural inequalities at play that change the equation of desire and objectification. (Here’s how my guy sums up the politics of gender inequality: when men express outrage towards women, women get beaten, raped and killed; when women express outrage towards men—women get beaten, raped, and killed.) Is it then safe to say that when men express objectifying desire toward women, women can get dehumanized and raped, but when women express such desire toward men, they don’t?
(Source: must-love-hobbits, via danglingthpider)